Working on a relationship is hard work.  People of all races, creeds and cultures deal with it.  You are trying to find out about someone who is also trying to find out about you.  You play mind games and try to get that person to say their feelings first.  It’s not easy getting to know someone and when you do somethings you don’t like what you see after you’ve spent months investing your time and energy in the relationship.  Many people keep a few people on the side just in case one relationship doesn’t work out they have another one on reserve.  Is that fair?  Well all is fair in love and war.